132. You Probably Aren’t The Communicator You Think You Are

How well do you believe you communicate?  In this episode of the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka brings to light a compelling aspect of human nature: the tendency to overestimate our communication abilities. This insight prompts a deeper exploration of the discrepancies between what we intend to convey and the actual impact of our words on others.


When we think about communication habits that have a negative impact, Alejandra divides these into three levels of awareness: very obvious, less obvious, and subtle. She explores a range of behaviors, including bullying, passive aggression, and interrupting, to the seemingly benign act of giving unsolicited advice. 


The episode emphasizes the crucial role of self-awareness in identifying our communication habits. Alejandra encourages listeners to develop curiosity about how their communication tendencies affect those around them and to be mindful of the impact they have.


For those who recognize these habits in themselves and seek to enhance their communication, Alejandra offers the opportunity for personalized coaching. By visiting languagealchemy.com/newclient, listeners can embark on a journey of personal growth, learning to communicate with clarity, confidence and compassion.



• “Most people believe they communicate better than they actually do.” (3:21 | Alejandra Siroka) 

• “Many times relationship issues happen because we're not aware of how we are communicating. And specifically, we are not aware of the impact of our communication.” (12:14 | Alejandra Siroka)

• “If you notice you have one or perhaps many of these negative communication habits, congratulations. Yes, now you are having awareness of your communication. And with awareness, you can then have a choice as to what kind of impact you would like your communication to have. (13:06 | Alejandra Siroka)

• “My invitation to you is this, be curious about how you are communicating this week. Notice if you're engaging in one of the very obvious, less obvious, or more subtle communication habits that have a negative impact.” (17:33 | Alejandra Siroka)  



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Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD


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