187.How to Communicate with Integrity When Others Don't
When the world feels chaotic and conversations feel risky the question becomes where to begin. Choosing integrity, clarity and care in how you communicate may be one of the most meaningful places to start.
It can be tempting to disengage or speak without much care for impact when public discourse feels fractured and emotionally charged. Alejandra Siroka invites listeners to consider why communication still shapes the quality of our relationships and how local interactions within families, workplaces and friendships remain places where integrity and care are still fully within reach.
Alejandra highlights patterns to be aware of such as shutting down to avoid conflict lashing out under pressure or staying silent to keep the peace. These responses may feel familiar yet they often pull us away from the values we want to live by. Through relatable examples she offers language that helps set boundaries without escalating tension and express disagreement while staying grounded. In this episode, you will learn to focus less on changing others and more on staying aligned with your values when conversations get uncomfortable.
At the end of the episode, Alejandra guides you through a practical exercise to support steadier conversations and reduce unnecessary drama.
Quotes
- “The health of the world depends on the health of our families. And the health of our families depends on how healthy our communication is. Healthy communication gives us healthy relationships.” (00:00 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “If you react by avoiding, attacking, or shutting down, then you are using what I call the language of survival.” (07:14 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “You are not communicating in alignment with your values to try to change the other person. That’s not the point. You communicate with integrity because of who you are.” (12:23 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “When you communicate in alignment with your values, you are being authentic. But when you communicate in alignment with your usual habits and inherited communication patterns, you are not being authentic.” (13:23 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “You're not being in the present moment and you're not being authentic. True authenticity requires presence, which means pausing effort, willingness, and awareness. Authenticity means taking the space to check in with yourself and making the effort to ask yourself, what do I value in this relationship? And am I communicating in a way that reflects those values? ” (15:17| Alejandra Siroka)
Links
Group Coaching: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching
To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366
To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706
To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme
To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/mailinglist
To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion
To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone
To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples
To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient
To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy
Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD
Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
