176. Your Unexamined Childhood Language Patterns Are Sabotaging Your Adult Relationships
Transform the way you speak to yourself, life, and others to open the door to deeper connection, stronger confidence, and real personal growth.
Alejandra Siroka invites you to see communication as more than words exchanged between people. It is the thread that shapes your relationships, your self-image, and your sense of possibility. The language you use with yourself can lift you up or hold you back. The beliefs you carry about life can expand your world or keep it small. The way you speak to others can build trust or create distance.
Through client stories, Alejandra shows how patterns formed in childhood often stay with us and quietly influence every interaction. She explores the three dimensions of communication: how you talk to yourself, how you relate to life, and how you connect with others. She offers ways to evolve each one so you can move from self-criticism to compassion, from bracing for the worst to noticing support, and from defensiveness to genuine curiosity. These shifts create ripple effects you can see and feel in daily life.
In this episode, Alejandra leaves us with the understanding that transforming your communication means stepping into the fullest version of yourself with tools, guidance, and a supportive community to help you get there.
Quotes
- “If you’re still talking to yourself using the same language patterns you absorbed as a child, it’s like you’re trying to navigate your adult life with a child’s map.” (04:40 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “The health of your relationships, and therefore the quality of your life, depends on how you communicate with others.” (12:05 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “When you transform your interpersonal communication, you have more choice and you’re able to express yourself authentically in a way that has presence and understanding for you and for the other person.” (13:40 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “When you transform your communication, it has ripple effects. When you change how you communicate, everything changes.” (15:16 | Alejandra Siroka)
- “Transformation is not about becoming someone different. It’s about becoming more fully yourself, the wise, loving, authentic, mature adult you truly are.” (17:54 | Alejandra Siroka)
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