Your main self-sabotaging
communication habit is to FREEZE!

You freeze because...

You love harmony and peace, especially with the people you feel closest to, or interact with most frequently.

When everybody is getting along, you breathe more easily and can relax.

When others do or say something that could lead to conflict, your inner chameleon shows up. You try to figure out what others may want you to say to de-escalate a potential intense interaction.

Or you stay quiet until things are “back to normal.”

Getting along, being nice and pleasant are important to you, and you would like others to chill, at least a little.

But sometimes your lack of response, your effort to agree and compromise prematurely finds you saying “yes” to things you want to say “no” to.

In time, you feel resentful and wish others could understand your needs.

When others get familiar with your inner chameleon, they talk your ear off and stop asking you questions about your needs. They may not be aware that they’re taking a lot from you and not giving you much in return.

When you freeze, you sabotage yourself ...

Issues linger and remain unresolved, so you don’t get to have the harmony you value so much.

You feel unseen, misunderstood, taken for granted, so you don’t experience your desired inner peace.

Others don't know about your needs, so you feel frustrated and tired of having unbalanced relationships.

When you freeze, you speak -what I call- the Language of Survival...

And when you speak the Language of Survival, you can't thrive.

Let’s acknowledge the truth…

You’ve already survived! Or else you wouldn't be here reading your quiz result.

Now, it is important to acknowledge that all the things you do in your communication when you freeze -saying nothing, smiling when you feel uncomfortable, or agreeing to something you don’t want to- gave you some sense of peace in the past.

But in present time, when you communicate using the Language of Survival and freeze, others take charge and a power imbalance sets in in your relationships leaving you feeling powerless...

If your freezing habit persists, the people in your significant relationships may feel burdened by having to make all the decisions. Nobody likes feeling burdened.

If you want to have a true sense of connection, meaningful interactions, and healthy relationships, you need to learn to stop freezing every time someone needs to discuss an issue with you, asks you for honest feedback, or says something that elicits discomfort in you.

You can transform your Language of Survival and activate yourself, speak your truth and cultivate the confidence to communicate your needs.

Good News!

You’ve uncovered something very important that can make all the difference in your relationships and truly transform your life.

Knowledge is power when you turn it into skillful action.

I’m here to help you take those skillful steps and move away from this self-sabotaging communication pattern.

Deep breaths, this is just the beginning of your transformative journey!

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to lead you to the true sense of harmony, peace, and the confidence needed to cultivate and maintain the healthy relationships you and the people in your life deserve.

Where do you go from here?

You got your quiz result, but how do you work with it in a transformative way?

Knowledge is power when you put it into action.

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"Alejandra helped me understand why I was having challenges and helped me address them by teaching me useful techniques and more effective ways of communicating. I am definitely able to communicate more authentically and have more tools to use when I confront inevitable challenges."

~ Rob M.

Hi, I'm Alejandra Siroka and I've been there...

Like you, I used to freeze when I felt harmony and peace were disturbed. This communication habit cost me many heartbreaks and the loss of dear friendships.

However, I learned to transform my use of language, and that transformed my life and all my relationships.

Today, I have a sacred partnership with my husband Matthew for 19 years and counting. I learned to communicate authentically with him and show up as my full self when things are fun and light and when they’re hard and uncomfortable.

I also have meaningful friendships and have healed the relationship with my family- who live in Argentina and are very different from me.

As a transformative communication teacher and coach, I’ve helped thousands of people transform their communication and have healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationships.

Now, it’s your turn. I know you can learn, too!

You have everything it takes to have the relationships you and the people around you deserve.

Your main self-sabotagingcommunication habit is to FREEZE!