Your main

self-sabotaging
communication habit

is to FLEE!

You flee because...

You are thoughtful and reflective.

You value safety, kindness, and the sense of freedom.

When someone does or says something that could lead to conflict, your inner rabbit shows up. You hop out of there as fast as possible to avoid confrontation and take space to think.

You come back if you believe the dust has settled.

Having choices, being able to take a break to think , and having a cool head are important to you, and you would like others to give you the space you need.

But sometimes you give others the silent treatment, you ghost them, get busy with other things, and simply don’t get back to what needs attention.

In time, your avoidance leads to anxiety because you have not developed the skill to have healthy conversations about topics that feel difficult to you.

When others experience your inner rabbit, they sometimes double down on their efforts to have long conversations with you leaving you feeling cornered, guilty, nervous, or dreadful.

When you freeze, you sabotage yourself ...

Issues linger and remain unresolved, so you feel fearful and don’t get to have the freedom of choice you value so much.

You lose important relationships, so you don’t receive the kindness and understanding you desire to have with others.

Others tell you they feel frustrated by your lack of response. You often feel uncomfortable and perceive others as too much.

When you flee, you speak -what I call- the Language of Survival...

And when you speak the Language of Survival, you can't thrive.

Let’s acknowledge the truth…

You’ve already survived! Or else you wouldn't be here reading your quiz result.

Now, it's important to acknowledge that all the things you do in your communication when you flee -like changing the subject, making a joke, leaving the room, or saying you don’t want to talk about it- gave you some sense of safety in the past.

But in present time, when you communicate using the language of survival and flee, others feel angry and a power imbalance sets in in your relationships leaving you feeling anxious...

If your fleeing habit persists, the people in your significant relationships will not trust they matter to you because when they want to share something important to them and you flee they may feel abandoned by you. Nobody likes feeling abandoned.

If you want to have a true sense of connection, meaningful interactions, and healthy relationships, you need to learn to stop fleeing every time someone wants to have a difficult conversation, gives you feedback you don’t like, or tells you something that elicits discomfort in you.

You need to transform your Language of Survival and learn to stay in the conversation while feeling grounded, capable, open, and curious.

Good News!

You’ve uncovered something very important that can make all the difference in your relationships and truly transform your life.

Knowledge is power when you turn it into skillful action.

I’m here to help you take those skillful steps and move away from this self-sabotaging communication pattern.

Deep breaths, this is just the beginning of your transformative journey!

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to lead you to the true sense of safety, freedom, and the confidence needed to cultivate and maintain the healthy relationships you and the people in your life deserve.

What's Next?

You got your quiz result, but how do you work with it in a transformative way?

Knowledge is power when you put it into action.

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"In our work together, I learned to recognize “triggered” energy patterning that was sabotaging my communication and how to transform it into awareness for authentic and conscious communication. I learned that I have the capacity to remain grounded, present and open even in the most vulnerable situations."

~ Denise D.

Hi, I'm Alejandra Siroka and I've been there...

Like you, I used to have self-sabotaging communication habits which cost me many heartbreaks and the loss of dear friendships.

However, I learned to transform my use of language, and that transformed my life and all my relationships.

Today, I have a sacred partnership with my husband Matthew for 19 years and counting. I learned to communicate authentically with him and show up as my full self when things are fun and light and when they’re hard and uncomfortable.

I also have meaningful friendships and have healed the relationship with my family- who live in Argentina and are very different from me.

As a transformative communication teacher and coach, I’ve helped thousands of people transform their communication and have healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationships.

Now, it’s your turn. I know you can learn, too!

You have everything it takes to have the relationships you and the people around you deserve.