Your main

self-sabotaging
communication habit

is to FIGHT!

You fight because...

You’re passionate about fairness.

When others are doing the right thing, you breathe more easily and can relax.

In the face of injustice, especially when you believe you or others are not treated well, your inner lion shows up to defend and protect, or to stand up for what you believe is true and right.

Respect and sensibility matter to you, and you would like others to do the right thing, or at least mind their own business.

Your beliefs, feelings, and ways of living are very important important to you. If you perceive they're under attack, others are going to hear you roar.

But sometimes your powerful responses scare others away; and you don’t want those you love or care about to feel unsafe around you.

In time, you feel angry that others don't tell you important things.

When others get familiar with your inner lion, they avoid you and don’t trust they can be safe with you and in the long run, they may lose respect for you.

When you fight, you sabotage yourself...

Issues don’t fully get resolved so you don't experience the kind of fairness and justice that matter to you.

Others shut down around you and don't tell you important information, so you feel angry and disrespected.

People are reluctant to disagree with you so connection with others becomes frayed or superficial.

When you fight, you speak -what I call- the Language of Survival...

And when you speak the Language of Survival, you can't thrive.

Let’s acknowledge the truth…

You’ve already survived! Or else you wouldn't be here reading your quiz result.

Now, it is important to acknowledge that all the things you do in your communication when you fight -accusing, blaming, trying to be right, and defending yourself- sometimes helped you, your point of view, or your ego in the past.

But in present time, when you communicate using the Language of Survival and fight, others feel intimidated by you and you don't feel seen for who you are.

If your fighting habit persists, the people in your life may not trust they can be real with you because you’ll fight them and they will feel small. Nobody likes feeling small.

If you want to have a true sense of connection, meaningful interactions, and healthy relationships, you need to learn to stop fighting every time someone disagrees with your ideas, gives you feedback you don’t like, or tell you something you don't think is right.

You need to learn to transform your Language of Survival and give the people around you the compassionate and respectful understanding you want for yourself.

Good News!

You’ve uncovered something very important that can make all the difference in your relationships and truly transform your life.

Knowledge is power when you turn it into skillful action.

I’m here to help you take those skillful steps and move away from this self-sabotaging communication pattern.

Deep breaths, this is just the beginning of your transformative journey!

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to lead you to equal respect, empathy and patience needed to cultivate and maintain the healthy relationships you and the people in your life deserve.

What's Next?

You got your quiz result, but how do you work with it in a transformative way?

Knowledge is power when you put it into action.

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"I am a strong independent woman who likes to be in control and get things done. In our work together, I saw I had a lot of fears and I didn't know how to talk about them without getting people triggered. I didn't want to upset others. I learned how to feel safe while expressing my concerns and fears in a way that is respectful to others. In fact, communicating more skillfully helps the other person be open and honest."

~ Nammy P.

Hi, I'm Alejandra Siroka and I've been there...

Like you, I used to have self-sabotaging communication habits which cost me many heartbreaks and the loss of dear friendships.

However, I learned to transform my use of language, and that transformed my life and all my relationships.

Today, I have a sacred partnership with my husband Matthew for 19 years and counting. I learned to communicate authentically with him and show up as my full self when things are fun and light and when they’re hard and uncomfortable.

I also have meaningful friendships and have healed the relationship with my family- who live in Argentina and are very different from me.

As a transformative communication teacher and coach, I’ve helped thousands of people transform their communication and have healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationships.

Now, it’s your turn. I know you can learn, too!

You have everything it takes to have the relationships you and the people around you deserve.