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Our Internal Dialogue: How We Got It and How We Can Use It Consciously to Cultivate Healthy Relationships

Our Internal Dialogue: How We Got It and How We Can Use It Consciously to Cultivate Healthy Relationships

When you and I were babies, we came to the world with the ability to communicate.  We cried, stared, moved our limbs, shrieked, cooed, and made all kinds of noises and movements to get attention from our parents and caretakers. We did this for two reasons. One, we could not fend for ourselves, so we needed others to pay attention to us and help us...

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How to Communicate Respectfully with Women

How to Communicate Respectfully with Women

The hundreds of women I have worked with who seek to authentically speak their truth are each unique. They all come from different backgrounds. Some were raised in big cities and others in small towns and rural areas. Many were born and lived in different countries. Some had highly educated parents and others had parents who did not receive much formal education. These women work...

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Compassionate Responses to Others’ Pain

Compassionate Responses to Others’ Pain

In the past few months, natural disasters have struck many parts of the world.  Hurricanes, mud slides, earthquakes, flooding and wild fires have wiped out entire communities.  Some lost loved ones, homes and dreams. Some lost everything. Whether you know people directly affected by these events or not, at some point in your life you will encounter someone who lived through some kind of tragedy...

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Authenticity

These days I often hear certain political candidates described as “authentic,” meaning that they speak their mind, and share their judgments and opinions freely. Often I’ve noticed, however, that this way of being occurs without regard of intentionality, consideration of impact, or self-assessment about the situation or audience at hand. Many recent articles have also suggested that you should not be “authentic” unless you are a celebrity, because you...

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Language is More Than Words

Language is More Than Words

Today we have an unprecedented ability to connect to other human beings via the Internet and other mediums and yet many of us are feeling lonely, isolated and dissatisfied with our human relationships. According to the World Health Organization, the number of people suffering from depression and/or anxiety has increased by nearly 50% in the last 15 years, especially in areas that are heavily populated....

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Young couple being busy using their smart phones at the restaurant turned away from each other.

Do you say yes to presence with others or to your electronic device?

When I was in the rainforest in Costa Rica, my husband and I stayed at a beautiful eco lodge located in the primary forest by the Corcovado National Park. The lodge is the last inhabited place at the end of the road after which the jungle begins.  The owner, a woman originally from Colorado, came to chat with us towards the end of the stay. ...

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How do you tell someone the truth?

How do you tell someone the truth?

                                              I decided to write about telling the truth in response to a question from a participant of Speaking the Language of the Heart workshop. In this workshop we did several activities to express ourselves authentically. A participant emailed me a question I frequently hear from my Communication coaching clients as well as from my workshops participants. She wrote “I’m afraid that if I tell...

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