Thriving


Can Your Feelings Get Hurt?

Can Your Feelings Get Hurt?

A friend offers feedback about your forgetting to call her for her birthday; a lover breaks up with you; a colleague tells you the email you sent has too many typos; a family member expresses their anger at you.  All these interactions can lead to you saying “Ouch, that hurts my feelings!” I’ve heard that expression so many times and became very curious about whether...

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6 Fundamental Steps for Women to Communicate Powerfully

6 Fundamental Steps for Women to Communicate Powerfully

As I sit to write this blog, I feel very moved reflecting on the women I’ve supported over the years who have developed the capacity to communicate powerfully. I’m thinking of a woman who was afraid to ask her husband for a divorce, fearing that her family would disown her because of their religious beliefs. This courageous woman learned to speak to her family with...

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How to Communicate Love Out Loud

How to Communicate Love Out Loud

I’ve heard many times from my teachers that one of the things that matters most at the end of our life is how deeply and sincerely we were able to love. The teaching about our ability to love has been imprinted in my heart since I was young. I vividly remember hearing my mother talking to my grandmother’s body at my grandmother’s wake asking her,...

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Quieting the Inner Interrogator

Quieting the Inner Interrogator

The beginning of the year found you contemplating new actions you want to take. You can feel a certain kind of electricity in your body when you consider the kind of experiences you can have if you take action. And in an instant, that sense of electricity gets dimmed. Your inner knowing is overpowered by a familiar inner voice I call the Inner Interrogator. Yes,...

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3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

You’ve been irritated by your partner’s actions for a while. You like to get to places on time and feel uneasy when you have to wait by yourself on the street because your partner is running late. Having a harmonious and loving relationship with your partner is important for you.  For the sake of that harmony, you tend to wait for a couple of days...

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15 Tips to Have Healthy Conversations about Politics

I grew up in Argentina, where politics was discussed at home during meals on a regular basis. However, I was not allowed to talk about politics with anybody else. “If others know what our political ideas are, we could get killed,” my mother told me when I was young. The idea that we could die for sharing our political views had a great impact on...

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Authenticity

These days I often hear certain political candidates described as “authentic,” meaning that they speak their mind, and share their judgments and opinions freely. Often I’ve noticed, however, that this way of being occurs without regard of intentionality, consideration of impact, or self-assessment about the situation or audience at hand. Many recent articles have also suggested that you should not be “authentic” unless you are a celebrity, because you...

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Language is More Than Words

Language is More Than Words

Today we have an unprecedented ability to connect to other human beings via the Internet and other mediums and yet many of us are feeling lonely, isolated and dissatisfied with our human relationships. According to the World Health Organization, the number of people suffering from depression and/or anxiety has increased by nearly 50% in the last 15 years, especially in areas that are heavily populated....

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How Do You Communicate Authentically Without Harming or Hurting?

How Do You Communicate Authentically Without Harming or Hurting?

Ahimsa is a Sanskrit word that means non-killing, non-hurting and is often translated as non-violence.  In the current political situation in the US, I see so many messages on the media and social media that reflect the opposite of Ahimsa. In sessions with my clients, I’ve heard people experience so much pain after hearing or reading comments from presidential candidates or their followers. I’m not...

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From Surviving to Thriving: Lessons from the Jungle

From Surviving to Thriving: Lessons from the Jungle

I’m just back from the majestic rainforest in Costa Rica. Hiking in the rainforest let me reflect on how different beings spend most of their existence performing habitual activities to protect themselves. Spider monkeys, who are usually quiet, especially as compared to the vociferous howling monkeys, make a lot of noise and shake branches when they feel threatened. The poisonous velvet snake camouflages itself so...

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