Oscar’s Wilde quote to “be oneself because everybody else is taken” invites us to show up authentically based on our individuality. The question that has haunted me for decades has been how to do this. Really, how do we communicate in a way that reflects who we truly are? I am writing this blog to address this question. When we want to speak authentically, we...
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As I sit to write this blog, I feel very moved reflecting on the women I’ve supported over the years who have developed the capacity to communicate powerfully. I’m thinking of a woman who was afraid to ask her husband for a divorce, fearing that her family would disown her because of their religious beliefs. This courageous woman learned to speak to her family with...
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I’ve heard many times from my teachers that one of the things that matters most at the end of our life is how deeply and sincerely we were able to love. The teaching about our ability to love has been imprinted in my heart since I was young. I vividly remember hearing my mother talking to my grandmother’s body at my grandmother’s wake asking her,...
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The beginning of the year found you contemplating new actions you want to take. You can feel a certain kind of electricity in your body when you consider the kind of experiences you can have if you take action. And in an instant, that sense of electricity gets dimmed. Your inner knowing is overpowered by a familiar inner voice I call the Inner Interrogator. Yes,...
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The holiday season and the end of the year can be a wonderful opportunity to choose to communicate consciously with family and friends. I often hear from some of you that the holidays are challenging because you will be spending time with people with whom you have established challenging communication dynamics. In many cases, these dynamics lead us feeling disappointed, frustrated and unseen for who...
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In the past few months, natural disasters have struck many parts of the world. Hurricanes, mud slides, earthquakes, flooding and wild fires have wiped out entire communities. Some lost loved ones, homes and dreams. Some lost everything. Whether you know people directly affected by these events or not, at some point in your life you will encounter someone who lived through some kind of tragedy...
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The violent events in Charlottesville last week affected me deeply. I felt heartbroken about the pain of polarization, racism, intolerance, and xenophobia that has haunted this country’s history and seems to be humanity’s sad and enduring legacy. I felt confused, angry and thirsty for solutions to heal this pain. The tragedy of how racial beliefs override our ability to see each other first as...
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You know you are a loving person. You get how rewarding it is to have a loving conversation with someone and to feel like you are connecting and seeing one another as loving human beings. Maybe you find it easier to feel a sense of ease and care in your communication with strangers, like the cashier at the store or someone on a bus or...
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You’ve been irritated by your partner’s actions for a while. You like to get to places on time and feel uneasy when you have to wait by yourself on the street because your partner is running late. Having a harmonious and loving relationship with your partner is important for you. For the sake of that harmony, you tend to wait for a couple of days...
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Your day started with ease. You took some time for self-connection before leaving home. You did some yoga, meditation or took some conscious breaths. “Today is going to be a great day,” you say to yourself. You leave home with a sense of purpose and optimism. As you drive to your first meeting, traffic is slow. You turn the radio on and hear some disturbing...
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