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The Main Obstacle to Authentic Speech

The Main Obstacle to Authentic Speech

Oscar’s Wilde quote to “be oneself because everybody else is taken” invites us to show up authentically based on our individuality. The question that has haunted me for decades has been how to do this. Really, how do we communicate in a way that reflects who we truly are? I am writing this blog to address this question. When we want to speak authentically, we...

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How to Communicate Love Out Loud

How to Communicate Love Out Loud

I’ve heard many times from my teachers that one of the things that matters most at the end of our life is how deeply and sincerely we were able to love. The teaching about our ability to love has been imprinted in my heart since I was young. I vividly remember hearing my mother talking to my grandmother’s body at my grandmother’s wake asking her,...

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Compassionate Responses to Others’ Pain

Compassionate Responses to Others’ Pain

In the past few months, natural disasters have struck many parts of the world.  Hurricanes, mud slides, earthquakes, flooding and wild fires have wiped out entire communities.  Some lost loved ones, homes and dreams. Some lost everything. Whether you know people directly affected by these events or not, at some point in your life you will encounter someone who lived through some kind of tragedy...

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3 Ways to Communicate Lovingly in Vulnerable Situations

3 Ways to Communicate Lovingly in Vulnerable Situations

You know you are a loving person. You get how rewarding it is to have a loving conversation with someone and to feel like you are connecting and seeing one another as loving human beings. Maybe you find it easier to feel a sense of ease and care in your communication with strangers, like the cashier at the store or someone on a bus or...

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3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

You’ve been irritated by your partner’s actions for a while. You like to get to places on time and feel uneasy when you have to wait by yourself on the street because your partner is running late. Having a harmonious and loving relationship with your partner is important for you.  For the sake of that harmony, you tend to wait for a couple of days...

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Cultivating the Courage to Take Compassionate Action

What is compassionate action? I’m defining compassionate action as the ability do something to alleviate the pain that’s being experienced by ourselves or others. We take compassionate action because of our love and care for those who are suffering. It is undeniable that at this time, there is so much pain and suffering in our communities and the world.  And while there are many specific...

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15 Tips to Have Healthy Conversations about Politics

I grew up in Argentina, where politics was discussed at home during meals on a regular basis. However, I was not allowed to talk about politics with anybody else. “If others know what our political ideas are, we could get killed,” my mother told me when I was young. The idea that we could die for sharing our political views had a great impact on...

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Authenticity

These days I often hear certain political candidates described as “authentic,” meaning that they speak their mind, and share their judgments and opinions freely. Often I’ve noticed, however, that this way of being occurs without regard of intentionality, consideration of impact, or self-assessment about the situation or audience at hand. Many recent articles have also suggested that you should not be “authentic” unless you are a celebrity, because you...

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Language is More Than Words

Language is More Than Words

Today we have an unprecedented ability to connect to other human beings via the Internet and other mediums and yet many of us are feeling lonely, isolated and dissatisfied with our human relationships. According to the World Health Organization, the number of people suffering from depression and/or anxiety has increased by nearly 50% in the last 15 years, especially in areas that are heavily populated....

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How Do You Communicate Authentically Without Harming or Hurting?

How Do You Communicate Authentically Without Harming or Hurting?

Ahimsa is a Sanskrit word that means non-killing, non-hurting and is often translated as non-violence.  In the current political situation in the US, I see so many messages on the media and social media that reflect the opposite of Ahimsa. In sessions with my clients, I’ve heard people experience so much pain after hearing or reading comments from presidential candidates or their followers. I’m not...

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