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The Main Obstacle to Authentic Speech

The Main Obstacle to Authentic Speech

Oscar’s Wilde quote to “be oneself because everybody else is taken” invites us to show up authentically based on our individuality. The question that has haunted me for decades has been how to do this. Really, how do we communicate in a way that reflects who we truly are? I am writing this blog to address this question. When we want to speak authentically, we...

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How to Communicate Respectfully with Women

How to Communicate Respectfully with Women

The hundreds of women I have worked with who seek to authentically speak their truth are each unique. They all come from different backgrounds. Some were raised in big cities and others in small towns and rural areas. Many were born and lived in different countries. Some had highly educated parents and others had parents who did not receive much formal education. These women work...

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How to Communicate Love Out Loud

How to Communicate Love Out Loud

I’ve heard many times from my teachers that one of the things that matters most at the end of our life is how deeply and sincerely we were able to love. The teaching about our ability to love has been imprinted in my heart since I was young. I vividly remember hearing my mother talking to my grandmother’s body at my grandmother’s wake asking her,...

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Compassionate Responses to Others’ Pain

Compassionate Responses to Others’ Pain

In the past few months, natural disasters have struck many parts of the world.  Hurricanes, mud slides, earthquakes, flooding and wild fires have wiped out entire communities.  Some lost loved ones, homes and dreams. Some lost everything. Whether you know people directly affected by these events or not, at some point in your life you will encounter someone who lived through some kind of tragedy...

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Reaching in, Speaking out, and Committing to Peace in the Face of Violence and Hatred

Reaching in, Speaking out, and Committing to Peace in the Face of Violence and Hatred

The violent events in Charlottesville last week affected me deeply. I felt heartbroken about the pain of polarization, racism, intolerance, and xenophobia that has haunted this country’s history and seems to be humanity’s sad and enduring legacy. I felt confused, angry and thirsty for solutions to heal this pain.   The tragedy of how racial beliefs override our ability to see each other first as...

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3 Ways to Communicate Lovingly in Vulnerable Situations

3 Ways to Communicate Lovingly in Vulnerable Situations

You know you are a loving person. You get how rewarding it is to have a loving conversation with someone and to feel like you are connecting and seeing one another as loving human beings. Maybe you find it easier to feel a sense of ease and care in your communication with strangers, like the cashier at the store or someone on a bus or...

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3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

You’ve been irritated by your partner’s actions for a while. You like to get to places on time and feel uneasy when you have to wait by yourself on the street because your partner is running late. Having a harmonious and loving relationship with your partner is important for you.  For the sake of that harmony, you tend to wait for a couple of days...

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The Gift of Communicating Anger Compassionately

The Gift of Communicating Anger Compassionately

Your day started with ease. You took some time for self-connection before leaving home. You did some yoga, meditation or took some conscious breaths. “Today is going to be a great day,” you say to yourself. You leave home with a sense of purpose and optimism.  As you drive to your first meeting, traffic is slow. You turn the radio on and hear some disturbing...

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Cultivating the Courage to Take Compassionate Action

What is compassionate action? I’m defining compassionate action as the ability do something to alleviate the pain that’s being experienced by ourselves or others. We take compassionate action because of our love and care for those who are suffering. It is undeniable that at this time, there is so much pain and suffering in our communities and the world.  And while there are many specific...

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15 Tips to Have Healthy Conversations about Politics

I grew up in Argentina, where politics was discussed at home during meals on a regular basis. However, I was not allowed to talk about politics with anybody else. “If others know what our political ideas are, we could get killed,” my mother told me when I was young. The idea that we could die for sharing our political views had a great impact on...

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