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The Main Obstacle to Authentic Speech

The Main Obstacle to Authentic Speech

Oscar’s Wilde quote to “be oneself because everybody else is taken” invites us to show up authentically based on our individuality. The question that has haunted me for decades has been how to do this. Really, how do we communicate in a way that reflects who we truly are? I am writing this blog to address this question. When we want to speak authentically, we...

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3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

3 Keys to Turn a Potential Argument into a Conversation

You’ve been irritated by your partner’s actions for a while. You like to get to places on time and feel uneasy when you have to wait by yourself on the street because your partner is running late. Having a harmonious and loving relationship with your partner is important for you.  For the sake of that harmony, you tend to wait for a couple of days...

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15 Tips to Have Healthy Conversations about Politics

I grew up in Argentina, where politics was discussed at home during meals on a regular basis. However, I was not allowed to talk about politics with anybody else. “If others know what our political ideas are, we could get killed,” my mother told me when I was young. The idea that we could die for sharing our political views had a great impact on...

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Authenticity

These days I often hear certain political candidates described as “authentic,” meaning that they speak their mind, and share their judgments and opinions freely. Often I’ve noticed, however, that this way of being occurs without regard of intentionality, consideration of impact, or self-assessment about the situation or audience at hand. Many recent articles have also suggested that you should not be “authentic” unless you are a celebrity, because you...

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How Do You Communicate Authentically Without Harming or Hurting?

How Do You Communicate Authentically Without Harming or Hurting?

Ahimsa is a Sanskrit word that means non-killing, non-hurting and is often translated as non-violence.  In the current political situation in the US, I see so many messages on the media and social media that reflect the opposite of Ahimsa. In sessions with my clients, I’ve heard people experience so much pain after hearing or reading comments from presidential candidates or their followers. I’m not...

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