You long for authenticity in your relationships with others. You want to cultivate deeper connection that comes from honest communication.
Imagine having healthy, nurturing and lasting relationships as a result of speaking clearly, truthfully and with heart.
Imagine being able to skillfully communicate with your friends, your partner, your colleagues even in challenging circumstances. You can have these experiences because all of us human beings have the capacity to thrive in relationships.
However, like so many, you don’t know how to truly express who you are or what you need. Some of your relationships feel superficial. Turning to social media to express yourself might help on occasion, but it is not fully satisfying and can actually create more of a sense of disconnection and confusion.
You often don’t speak up for fear of offending others. Your interactions frequently leave you feeling misunderstood, frustrated or powerless.
You are not alone; real connection is what we all yearn for. In fact, we now know from the field of neuroscience that the human brain is wired for connection. To experience this we need to express ourselves differently.
Most likely, you inherited the language you are using, and it reflects the conditioned patterns, beliefs and assumptions of your family and your culture.
It is not a language you have chosen, yet this language is your most frequent and influential tool for making sense of and relating to yourself, others and life.
This inherited language is what I call the Language of Survival.
When you speak the Language of Survival your life experience becomes limited which creates feelings of isolation.
When the sense of disconnection continues, you are more prone to anxiety and depression — the two most common disorders of our time.
That longing in your heart for a fulfilling human experience that goes beyond survival is not a utopian fantasy. A life where authenticity, connection and compassion are present is not only imaginable, it is your birthright.
Language has the power to transform every aspect of life and bring about the connection and ‘realness’ for which you long.
When you connect to what you are experiencing within and are able to express that without judgment towards yourself or other, you speak the Language of Your Heart.
As you learn to become what is true for you, your brain circuitry shifts, your nervous system relaxes and you experience more energy, clarity and peace.
This connection needs to start with yourself and understanding the language of your inner dialogue. Through this awareness you uncover what you really want.
As you clarify your true longings you are better able to share them with others to foster thriving relationships.
In this transformative 9‐week course we will harness the power of language to bring about the life and relationships you are capable of having.
The capacity for language and communication is wired into us. It is our neurobiological heritage and it can also become our destiny. As adults, language becomes our primary tool of thought and means to name our reality. We use words to think, and we use words to define the world we live in. As children, we have openness and curiosity to receive the world as it comes.
We do not yet have preconceived ideas and expectations about how the world should be, or who we should be. In addition, we rely on other ways of connecting to the world – feelings, sensations, touch – that may be pre-verbal or non-verbal.
As we grow and our linguistic skills become more sophisticated, we rely more and more on language to think and to make sense of the world. Language then becomes a permanent resource in our minds that we use to reason, to observe and to relate.
We draw upon language constantly in our inner dialogues; that is, the conversations that occur in our minds. At the same time, our use of language becomes more and more unconscious and habitual. Just as our breath affects our nervous system and we usually breathe without realizing it, our language shapes our experience and thus our belief system without our awareness.
The exploration of the language we use is critical to our personal evolution. When we look deeply into the ways in which we communicate in our internal and external interactions, we find habitual and unconscious patterns. While these patterns contributed to our initial making sense of our environments, they may no longer be useful or may actually move us away from what is important to us.
By consciously exploring our unconscious language we realize that we can actually change how we think about ourselves, others and the world. When we bring awareness, curiosity and empathy to this linguistic journey we can enhance the quality of our personal interactions and bring about a more integrated, compassionate and connected human experience.
“My relationship with a coworker started to change after I used the techniques I learned in this workshop and another one I took with Alejandra. It is still an ongoing process, but I feel I now have the tools to deal with issues that come up. I had one conversation with her after she did something at work that upset me, and something she said made me realize that I had been assuming things that actually weren’t true. Afterwards I felt a connection to her that I hadn’t felt in years.”
— Karina M., Professor
“This course is great for teachers who are looking for ways to better manage and communicate with their students.”
— Jill S., Middle School Teacher
“I became more conscious when interacting with others and the course changed the way I perceive people and situations around me.”
— Laura T., Yoga Teacher, North Carolina
“The subjects were presented clearly for discussion, and not only our solutions but the solutions reveal themselves in a way that inspires greater levels of communication. Alejandra imparts these techniques that reveal the true potential of our communication. “
— Brian B. Software Engineer
“All these methods of communication have been very effective in making my work environment less hostile and draining.”
— Lee B., Colorist
“I have used some of the things I learned through this workshop to better communicate with a family member (my brother). There were only two possibilities in the past, silence or anger. With the skills provided to me during this workshop and if I put them to good use, those possibilities could give way to a healthier and long lasting dialogue.”
— Gabriela B., Interpreter
This 9-week online course offers a variety of learning tools designed to offer different approaches to the material.
Nine weekly, LIVE interactive course sessions with Alejandra. Each week, you will have the opportunity to participate in dyads and small groups during the sessions.
Nine recordings of the live course sessions. All sessions will be available for download or streaming so you can review material or catch up on a missed a session.
Nine extra teaching audios corresponding to each week of the course. These audios will contain materials to supplement the weekly course sessions. Audios will be made available weekly to download or stream.
Three recorded guided meditations where Alejandra invites you to further your self-inquiry.
Access to a private, interactive course website for all participants where you will have all course materials, and a space to connect further with Alejandra and fellow participants. In this private online community you will be able to ask additional questions, post comments and share your experience in your transformative journey.
A learning partner with whom you will have a 20-minute structured call on a weekly basis in between course sessions. These practice calls will provide the opportunity to deepen your learning, offer encouragement and be supported by a fellow participant.
Nine PDF handouts to accompany each weekly course session. These handouts will have a summary of main teaching points as well as instructions for the activities provided in each session.
Nine structured journal prompts to support you in your written self-inquiry and help you keep track of your process.
“This course was a very worthwhile experience. It made me realize that communication consists of many patterns created by habit and internal dialogue. The workshop helped me bring awareness to these patterns.”
— Thais S., Nutritionist
“My relationship with myself seems to have opened and become more loving and tolerant as a result of the course.”
— Nisha C., Consultant
“Alejandra leads with a natural grace that invites openness and participation. Her centered and unflappable presence “holds” the group and encourages risk-‐taking by participants.”
— Mike K., Artist
“The impact your teachings have had on me and my life has been life-‐changing. Speaking from the Heart continues to be a part of my life and remains a daily practice. The way you lead with authentic compassion and empathy is inspiring. I believe in and understand the importance of this work as a way to bring more honesty to ourselves and into our relationships. Thank you.”
— Christy Evans, Yoga Teacher
From wherever you live, starting on October 6th, you can join Alejandra Siroka, and spend nine weeks uncovering your core values, experiencing your intrinsic empathic nature and your capacity for authentic expression for a more deeply connected and joyful life. Register here for Being Real and transform your life and relationships by speaking the Language of your Heart.
Every week for 7 weeks, you have the opportunity to participate in a live interactive class from the comfort of your home. You join the class through a phone or your computer. In each class, a communication topic and skill will be introduced and you will have the chance to practice and interact with fellow course participants as well as with Alejandra, during the Q&A session. Every live class will be recorded so you can stream or download each class to listen to it and work with the corresponding handout at a time that works for you. Classes with Alejandra are LIVE on Wednesdays.
You will also be assigned a practice partner with whom you will engage in further guided practice of your newly acquired communication skills.
All live classes start at 5:30pm (PST) and end at 7:00pm (PST)
All live course session recordings will be available on our private website the Friday after the Wednesday live session. You can stream or download the recording at any time on Friday and save it on your favorite device (computer, tablet, mobile phone).
All course session supplemental audios will be available on the Saturday after the Wednesday live session.
The technological equipment you’ll need is a computer with an Internet connection, and a phone (mobile or landline) or SKYPE free phone line if you wish to participate in the live interactive course sessions and to engage in supplemental practice with your learning partner.
Yes, all live course sessions will be recorded and they will be available for you 48 hours after every live session. In fact, many people are unable to attend all the sessions live and some participants will only listen to the recordings because of their time zones. Once the recordings are available on our private course website, you can stream them directly from your computer or download them and save them on your favorite device. If you are not able to attend the live course sessions, you can still post questions on the Forum and interact with Alejandra that way. You will still have a learning partner to talk to on a weekly basis and practice your newly acquired skills at a time that is convenient to you. We are confident that you will feel very much a part of our community and enjoy the camaraderie of sharing this alchemical journey with other participants.
Because this is an online course, you can attend the sessions and do the practice from the comfort of your own home in a way that works best for you. Wherever your computer is, wherever your phone is, you can participate in this course. It’s recommended that you create a quiet space and time where you are, but it is possible to call from a phone while you are outside or log in from your hotel room if you’re traveling.
No previous meditation or self-inquiry experience is necessary in order to participate in this program. Any time in your life is a great time to learn to quiet the mind, make space for self-connection and develop deeper understanding of yourself.